Over the years women have been my education when it comes to the relationship between the sexes and though having learned well, I have come to a few conclusions on my own.
Back in 1992 the book Men are from Mars and women are form Venus by John Grey made a splash and was the most talked about book that year, causing endless discussion at the office water cooler, especially since it had merit. Indeed there is a great distance between the sexes on the view on my things, especially when it comes to the word and meaning of love when it associated with love making.
Men will mostly refer to physical intimacy as sex or a fuck and though a few women would concur, most will respond in saying that love is lovemaking.
In nature the male spices is focused on procreation, the female on bearing off-springs and family, and these traits are also in our genetic structure. Unlike animals, we have the capability to think and reason to choose the path we wish to take.
For me there is a difference between the words sex and love, just as much as there is also a difference associated with the word of fuck when it comes to its association to intercourse. Each of these words represent a valid aspect in the sexual exchange between the sexes and it is up to each one of us what that interpretation is.
My definition of these three words
Through the many years that I have navigated the cryptic landscape of feminine mystique I have come to understand numerous differences, only to emerge with my own assessment of these three words and the possibilities they held.
In the most basic form is fuck, which is nothing more than obtaining ones own pleasure, regardless how it is achieved, ignoring the other person needs or their gratification. It is selfish in every sense of the word, as well as being animalistic in nature and yet it does have a purpose in the relationship between the sexes.
On the other hand sex is considerable more balanced between fuck and love and can even be considered routine, boring, and vanilla. Yet it is here where most couples settle into , simply because it incorporates the males drive for procreation and the woman’s need for some kind of intimacy.
Finally there is love, the highest form of expressing physical intimacy to ones mate. It is void of any selfishness when one gives completely of themselves, by disregarding ones own pleasure and focusing completely on the other persons needs, wants and pleasure.
In the end these words fuck, sex, and love, equals nine combinations of basic possibilities in the exchange of physical pleasures. All of which express intimacy at some point and when we have negotiated through communication with our partner our most basic need; emotional intimacy is achieved through the very thing that drives us from one day to the next, sex.
While my description of fuck, sex, and love remains elementary, it becomes complex when adding some spice, a dash of kink, and a splash of taboo. We simple start out with one of the nine basic platforms and let our imagination run wild from there.
Thank you for your visit
E.A.
